Never go back to an old love, no matter how strong it is. It’s like reading a book over and over again when you already know how it ends.
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Hey y’all, I hope everyone is doing good! I be trying my damnest to blog more, but between my small t-shirt business and other bs I have going, it’s placed on the back burner. Speaking of small t-shirt business, y’all should go check out my website! You may see a funny t-shirt that you would like to order! http://www.flirtykweentanksandts.com is the web address:)
Anywho, y’all remember my last post I was talking about co-parenting and all that good shit. Well, this question was brought to my attention and I really need y’all’s input on this one for real! So plse comment on this:)
Question I was asked: How can you be upset over the death of your alleged child’s father when he wasn’t even in the child’s life and he’s married with three other children? He never acknowledged the 2 year old and he hasn’t had any contact with you ever since the beginning of your pregnancy with the child. How can you be so upset over a man you slept with whom you barely knew anything about?
Now before I go further, I saw this person on facebook saying she was crying her eyes out and couldn’t stop crying. So other people were messaging saying they were sorry for HER loss….HER loss? I know a little bit about this person so I felt compelled to inbox her a message. I said, I’m sorry for your child’s loss. I didn’t get a response. Did I sound too impersonally?
My thing is first of all you slept with a man you KNEW was married. According to my reports. He was at fault just as much as she was, I’m not pointing fingers there. But he wanted nothing to do with you or your child. Why would you be so upset over this man’s death? Maybe because there’s no chance the kid will ever know his father. But would he have known him anyway? He wanted nothing to do with you or the child period. The wife found out about the child via the “baby momma” blasting him on facebook along with a picture of the child and the father’s picture side by side, saying this is his father, don’t they look alike? Adding that she didn’t give a damn who went back to tell her.
My thing is why are you so heart broken? Because you can’t harass him anymore, or for your child’s sake? What do y’all think? Come on na’ with some feedback.
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Isis Montgomery is a newly divorced criminal lawyer and she’s partying harder than a collage student on spring break. She begins dating, and becomes serious with a high profile lawyer name Richard Denton. Richard wants to build a future with her, but she’s side tracked by a younger guy name Jaborry, who Isis will attempt to avoid continues to come on strong. Jaborry being the wild outgoing type will leave Isis thinking twice. Will she make the mistake and find herself in a hell hole with Jaborry, or will she find sanction in the arms of Richard? Isis will find herself engaging in some true Tom foolery leaving herself and everyone involved…
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What it do guys and gals? I know I’ve been away for a bit, but truth be told, I’ve been busy writing! But hey, I’m here now to write up a good old post.:)
I want to talk about being abused in the relationship. Don’t nam fucker loves you if they beating the hell out of you. If they do, they have a funny ass way of showing their love. If you have to beat my ass to prove to me that you love me, then hell, I don’t want to be loved by you. Hate me shit! I’ve seen soooooo many relationships where the woman is getting her ass whooped like Floyd Mayweather beat Pacquiao. I’m talking about beat down, drugged, and punched. Men too! I’ve seen the youtube videos where men be getting they damn lights punched out by their gf’s or baby momma’s and shit. It’s not always the man beating the woman, it’s more cases in this instance, but men get the business too.
That shit aint healthy. And if you’re one of the ones who’s being physically and or mentally abused, leave his/her ass! That shit can turn deadly in the long run..hell, sometimes in the short run. Aint nothing cute about being beating up and then be seen with that person the next day. That makes you look bad. I know some folks don’t give a damn. They like to keep lumps and knots on their body. But on the for real tip, if you’re in an abusive relationship, leave. Is it worth your life? Love don’t suppose to hurt….not physically.
I’m Kassie Leigh Perkins and I approve this damn message
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Look here ladies and gents….what EVER you do, plse don’t be a damn fool for love!!! Don’t waste your time or energy on a person who is NOT interested in you! YOU CANNOT FORCE a relationship on a person. If you attempt to do so, you’re only setting ya’ damn self up for failure!!! You will get used and abused!!! DONT DO IT!!!
now, carry on with your day ladies and lads. 🙂
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Hello all, today I’m gonna touch on something that stemmed from a FB posting from someone I know personally. This person always speak negative when a relationship fails or shit just doesn’t go her way. I’m posting what she said, and I’ll post my response. The reason why I’m doing this is because if any of you feel this way, you need to take the advice from my response.
IM TIRED OF EVERYTHING I WISH SOME PEOPLE NEVER CAME INTO MY LIFE PERIOD……
Some folks come in your life as challenges. Some come in your life because the Lord put them there for a reason. Weather in passing, or for a brief stint. They are there to help you realize certain things, or to help you become aware of something. I too hate that I allowed some people in my life, but I learned lessons from each and it helped me realize a lot of shit. Be thankful for the life’s lessons, even though, you wish it would have never happened. Without the heartbreak, back stabbers, naysayers, disappointments, and negativity, how would you know how to live through it? You’re stronger than you think you are and you get wiser with time. Press on.
If any of you need some one on one advice, email me….firstname.lastname@example.org
Sometimes it takes you talking to a person you don’t know to help you get through situations, especially relationship problems. I’m ya’ girl. Talk to me if you want me to help you get through a tough time. KLP
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Straight, no chaser, from my guide the Man cave.
Don’t Pull Out All Of Your Cards
Men always try to impress a woman; we love to be smitten by the effort that’s put forth. But however, we can also be turned off by his egoistic ego. Ladies don’t you hate a desperate ass man? If you don’t, I sure as hell do. Some will be broke down or desperate men. And others are well to do, stuck on themselves kinda men. There aint no grey area, either they broke down or they aint. But they all think they’re hot shit.
Men can lay it on thick when they approach you in hopes of gaining a new lady friend in their life… Sometimes too thick. Some men are so anxious until they are willing to give up too much information about themselves way too fast. When I say way too fast, I mean as soon as you meet them they go into their whole life story. They go from zero to one hundred in nano seconds.
The moral to this snippet is, guys, don’t act so desperate. If she’s digging you, then she’ll give yo’ ass a chance. There’s no need to smother her with your attic’s. Sit back chill and allow her to conform to you.
Why put yourself in positions to make your life worse? Females and males are both guilty of this. It’s hard for me to understand when a person can get their head bumped several times by their mate, but continues to fight for the relationship. If you know that he or she isn’t the right one, why fight for the shit? Let it go! First time shame on you, second time shame on them. It’s only gonna cause you more heartache and pain, something that’s been all to familiar within the relationship. It’s gonna get worse if you’re the only one fighting to keep the relationship in tact. Your mate will change NOTHING as long as they know you’re gonna continue to put up with the bullshit. Get the hell on with your life, value yourself more and always love yourself FIRST!
This one is for the ladies. I must remind you that this is a matter factual dating blog. I’m gonna keep it real and tell it like it is.
Ladies, don’t be so damn stupid to force a baby on a man just so you can keep him in yo’ life. I get so tired of hearing about these stories. News flash idiot, having a baby by a man hoping that it will keep him around is out right STUPID! You’re only making it hard on yaself, cause 9 times outta 10, he wont be around to help you with the kid. You’re the one who will be up thru the night alone with the kid, you’re the one who will have to worry about finding a sitter, you’re the one who has to load the kid up and take him/her where ever you go. He may support you from a distance financial wise, but there will be no bonding time with you are the kid. Yall won’t be a big ole happy family who lives happily ever after.
You’re gonna end up with ya’ damn feelings hurt for being selfish. I’ve heard of women poking holes into condoms. Really? Oh, I’ve heard plenty of stories where some women claim to be on the pill, knowing damn well they aren’t. The stupid shit some women do to hold on to a man. Get yo’ life in order. Don’t force a man to want you. Cause like I said, forcing one to have a child by you will only set you up for failure. Child support helps financially, but you still wont have him in you or the babies life physically. He’s gonna reject you and the child. Don’t do it to yourself.
Don’t be stupid. Think before you do a foolish act.