Don’t stop living your life because you’re involved into someone else’s.
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Valentines day is approaching and I know some of you are excited about putting a smile on your mates face. Folks will become engaged, some will receive bouquets of roses and some will get candy and teddy bears. Love will be in the air. Now, for those of you who aren’t faithful in the relationship and who may have more than one face to put a smile upon, shame on you! Will you spend the day with your main squeeze, or will you spend it with the outsider? That’s too much shit to put up with when you’re cheating.
See folks don’t think about this kinda stuff until it happens. Days like v-tines day your side pc is gonna except to spend the day with you. If not the day, then most of the day. What will you tell your main boo to get away to spend time with the other person? I know some folks can pop this off without a hitch, but someone isn’t gonna be happy with the outcome. Oh, unless you spend the day before with the side pc, that should keep everything grounded. V-tines day SHOULD be a day where you spoil your main boo, not some outsider. It’s a day to shower your man or woman with romantic gifts and treats. Love who you’re with. If yo’ ass can’t be a one woman’s man or a one mans woman, you should try to have an open relationship with ya’ damn self. Meaning just date, don’t settle until you know you’re ready. So when the holidays come around or special days like valentines day, you won’t have to break any hearts or cause turmoil.
It’s Christmas time, don’t go calling up ya’ ex boo’s just to use them for gifts! lol! Leave he/she where ever the hell they are at! Don’t try to use folks. And just because it’s winter, and you’re still single, don’t go getting all lonely and shit, calling up a female or a male who you know full well you don’t fool with in no shape, form, or fashion. Take a hot shower and read a book with your single, lonely ass….lol!
Okay this will be short and to the point yall. If you’re in a relationship and the two of you stay together, is it your responsibility to keep up with your partners misplaced things? Hell no! He/she should be responsible enough to keep up with the things they feel are important to them. Why should an argument take place all because you assume I should know where you placed your Beats by Dre headphones?
They don’t belong to me, so why in the hell should I have to help yo’ grown ass keep up with your belongings? That’s just wrong to throw a temper tantrum on your mate behind some stupid shit like this. Do I need to go take you to the potty as well so you want piss on ya’ boxer shorts? Make sure you dry off and not drip? Get the hell out of here. If you’re in a relationship and you’re constantly being blamed for your partner misplacing their things, tell them to grow up and fuck off!
Men don’t give a damn where they meet a possible prospect. Once they’ve met all the women they can in Wal-Mart and the local gas stations, they venture out to the church house. Probably haven’t been to church in decades, but they got word that church is where most of all the nice innocent women are. But hell, sometimes it’s where the biggest freak is found. Some men know this, some don’t.
Ladies, a man that’s on a constant prowl for a new victim, will stoop so low as to finding a woman from the church house. I say victim because, the ones who prey on women time after time and never dedicate himself to a relationship is only looking for one thing. The woman becomes the victim because she falls for his charm, only for him to get what he wants and vanish from her life like a thief in the night. He never have plans to settle down with a woman, only to stir up her emotional state. Look out for the fly by night type of guy.
There is nothing wrong with falling into your man/woman. But ladies, sometimes we move too damn fast and end up with hurt feelings. Don’t be so eager to give a guy your all in one damn week. Make him earn your heart, love, sex and time. Give the relationship time to prove itself.
From the relationship guide Man Cave
Women sometimes think that if they’re submissive to their man that he will love her forever. If you think that way… what tree did you fall from? No brownie points earned, point blank. Women like to be loved and we love fast and hard at times. Sometimes too damn fast.
You meet a guy, you’re into him, he’s into you, and he tells you he’s in love with you, you’re in love too… so you think. You have sex with him; he breaks if off afterwards, you’re left looking stupid. Whewww that was a lot. You’ve been duped into lying on the lava bed of love and didn’t realize the volcano was about to erupt. Don’t be afraid to fall in love, but don’t let your guard down so soon.
No sir, we are NOT gonna tolerate this bullshit!
Roaming eyes can pose as a threat for some women. Some may say, men are gonna be men, that’s what they do. Ladies, your feelings are not “cufflinks”, so don’t cuff them. Let that man know that you will not tolerate it. That’s not a good feeling to cuff; seeing your man watching another woman while you’re right by his side. That should lead you to thinking of other possibilities. Possibilities such as, can he cheat? Is he cheating? Has he cheated? Is he still attracted to me?
Men don’t know that this type of behavior can cause insecurities within his woman. If you’ve been dealing with a man with such inappropriate behavior such as this, hold your position, not your tongue. Express your feelings and don’t find yourself dealing with this bullshit over and over. An understanding is what needs to be instilled in your man.
This post is actually for men and women who have dated in the past and knew when to move forward, taking a bit of what they’ve learned with them to the next relationship. If you’re no longer in a relationship, then that person is your ex. What did you learn from the relationship that you could take with you to the next? Was it something to help you grow with the next person or was it something that made you aware of what you didn’t expect to expect?
All relationships are different and we are suppose to learn something from each relationship. There will be the things that you find that you can’t tolerate and the things that you can deal with. Your main focus should be to find Mr. or Mrs. right to walk down the aisle with eventually. Learn, grow, and move forward.
My personal journey KLP……
Hon-tey, let me tell you. I’ve been in a few relationships and I had fun with them while they lasted. Once it ran its course, I moved forward and didn’t look back… I tried not to look back…. but every now and then I dipped back if the sex was good… Hey, don’t judge me. (Tee Hee) I don’t regret any relationship that I’ve had because it taught me a lot about who I was and where I wanted to be.
I became wiser as I grew into the woman I am today. Without dealing with the different alter ego personalities’ from guys, I would probably be a fool for love. I learned a lot about men and the way they think. I had to think like a man and act like a lady I knew after all of my failed relationships, what kind of man I wanted. The relationships failed, but I gained knowledge.
When you know that a possible prospect isn’t your cup of tea, but you chose to date him regardless, then you’re setting yourself up for failure. Don’t become desperate and step away from your better judgment. Don’t put yourself in numerous positions with a guy whom you know full well is not what you’re seeking.
However, if he has the potential to be what you want him to be, then maybe he can be molded. Don’t waste your time molding him; if you only see “one” of the umpteen qualities you look for in a man, you won’t be happy. Be truthful with yourself and stick to your guns.
This snippet from my book Man cave, can go both ways. Anytime you date below your standards, don’t bring yourself down a few notches to be where that person is. Always be real with yourself and know when to keep it moving or stick by that persons side. If there is potential there, then you may have stumbled upon a diamond in the rough.